I probably should not be blogging about this but I am going to do it anyway. I received an email from one of Lisa Holland’s family members. I suppose I need to realize that her family is perhaps in turmoil and shock over the revelations and events of the past week.
I will post the email but omit parts of it that may identify the writer:
“As I am related to the adopted mother Lisa Holland. I feel so sad for her family. They are also going through frustrations, anger and sorrow. The guilt that Lisa has been carring must be relieved now that Ricky is with God. We all can now be at peace for Ricky (…) I hope she can find forgiveness in herself. There is long haul for both families. I now feel sad for the children who are now without parents. They must be so confused and sad, I still love our family very much. Thank you (…)â€
I just do not understand people who can find it in their hearts to feel sympathy, empathy, or understanding for a family member who has just pretty much admitted to either murdering a child or having knowledge of that murder and keeping it a secret for over 200 days.
Not only did Lisa Holland perpetuate the lie within her family she perpetuated the lie on an entire nation.
I think the part of this email that got to me the most was where the writer states:
“The guilt that Lisa has been carring must be relieved now that Ricky is with God. We all can now be at peace for Rickyâ€
I am sure if Ricky had a voice in all of this he would much rather be among the living and frankly who cares whether the supposed guilt Lisa has been carrying will be relieved now that Ricky is with God? I could care less if Lisa’s supposed guilt is every assuaged or relieved. I could care less if Lisa can ever find forgiveness within herself.
I am glad I am not related to Lisa Holland. I don’t have to love her or their family. The dysfunction of her family is most likely what allowed Ricky’s murder to happen. I have no doubt in my mind that there was child abuse going on prior to his murder. People do not just one day decide to murder a child. Usually it is a case of child abuse gone to the extreme.
Ok, now I feel a bit better for venting my frustration regarding this email. I did reply to the writer, most likely she did not enjoy reading my reply.
I am so very sad, I do not feel sorry for them or ever will….I do feel sorry for poor little Ricky who lost his life to abuse at the tender age of 7 who probably just wanted to be home with his mother (biological that is) whom I’m sure he didn’t forget. I can tell you that I believe, as well as other neighbor’s of mine that there was abuse prior to his death….if I am supoenaed I will give as much information as possible to help give little Ricky as much of a voice as I can.
Former Jackson Neighbor
Anonymous
30 Jan 06 at 6:51 am
I must say I am very sad from this news too. I was watching this case on the internet from Czech republic from the beginning. I still hoped that he would be found save(but I knew it was not likely). Teribble is that he was killed by hid parents. I just hope he did not suffered much. He was very unluky born with awfull ilness, taken from his mother, abused and murdered. Poor litlle child.
Anonymous
30 Jan 06 at 8:27 am
Is this relative asking us to feel sympathy for fat cow murderer Lisa Holland? Did she have any sympathy for Ricky?? Because from what I’ve read he was always hungry and had to resort to asking neighbors for sandwiches. Poor Lisa Holland?
Anonymous
30 Jan 06 at 10:08 am
Being from the immediate area, I, too, have been following this case. I cannot even imagine how “aweful” a small child could be that would drive someone to murder that child. I am sick!
How do these people LIVE with themselves?? Not only to take away a small child’s life, but to put neighbor’s, law-enforcement, etc through all of the work of searching when you totally know what the status is. UGH. I used to work closely with some of the police officers involved and it wasn’t an easy job emotionally or physically. How SICK are these people to permit such a thing to go on? They even had apparently gone through as much to look at videotapes of apparent sightings of this child.
Well..when all is said and done, they both have only one person to answer to: their maker. EOS.
Carrie
30 Jan 06 at 10:17 am
Carrie,
It is unimagineable. How could they have watched people agonize and search for the child for many months all the while knowing that he had died at their hands? They even went so far to lament in interviews that their other adopted children were crying and calling out Ricky’s name throughout the day at home. They begged for whoever had him to release him. They seem beyond feeling.
Anonymous
30 Jan 06 at 10:20 am
I do feel bad for both of their families. Can you imagine what it is like to both love and want to throttle them? As for Lisa, she has been a very cold person from day one. A loving parent would have been totally hysterical when their child came up among the missing. Did she have tears? I only saw some token ones once. She is to be pitied – not sympathized with – but pitied. Read the book “A boy called IT” and you will probably have an idea what Ricky had to endure. I have no doubt that he is in the loving arms of God at this moment. He will never know misery again. Whichever parent did the deed will have to live with it for the rest of their life. The other one will also live with the knowledge that they covered it up.
Anonymous
30 Jan 06 at 1:29 pm
I agree. Those two do not deserve forgiveness in any way whatsoever. I only wonder, why on earth law enforcement did not investigate them when Ricky was reported missing. Even as a chronic runaway, he was only 7 years old. Kids that age run away for a reason–for example, child abuse. I can’t help but to think they overlooked this aspect due to the father’s status. If so, perhaps they should revisit that bit. After all, monsters come in all forms. This is very very sad. Thank you for taking the time to stand up for that precious little boy.
Anonymous
31 Jan 06 at 5:22 pm
I can assure you they did not overlook much. They did investigate, which is why the arrests took place in the first place. It’s just that there wasn’t much to go on. They weren’t getting the whole story. I’m sure they were frustrated that they couldn’t “catch” her at anything. Slick. They had to wait for just the right moment.
Anonymous
31 Jan 06 at 6:00 pm
Maybe the ultimate punishment for Lisa Holland would be to starve her? Extremely obese, it seems she ate up all the groceries in the house. Meanwhile the children went hungry…
Anonymous
1 Feb 06 at 7:44 am
Excellent ideas in this article. I feel so bad for those children. What is angering me right now is the birth mother milking the media for all it is worth. Cripes, she lost custody of all of her children. Why? She was also unfit. Now she is trying to portray herself as “poor little me.” Let’s hope the same system who blundered (to put it mildly) in giving these children to the Hollands don’t repeat the mistake in giving them back to the birth mother. These remaining children need stable, loving homes.
Anonymous
1 Feb 06 at 12:04 pm
Lisa Holland has no guilt. She is a robot, a heartless animal. As far as I can tell, Tim Holland is the only one who is even remotely sorry for what he helped to cover up.
Douchii23
3 Feb 06 at 8:02 pm
douchii23- You called that one on the money. She is cold. I think even Tim might have been abused. You hear of abused husbands. I just cannot fathom how an innocent party could hid the awful truth. When I think of that child lying in that marshy area for so long, it sickens me. I actually drive that road at times and I’m sick to think that I’ve driven right by and not aware of what was right under my nose. It’s interesting how many Jackson neighbors have come forward and mentioned how cold Lisa was and how they didn’t know they even had children because they weren’t outside. A lot to hide, I’d say. Well, she’s out of the picture now.
Does anyone know where Ricky’s funeral and burial was? It would be nice to see to it he has a marker and flowers in summer and not just put in the ground and forgotten. Nothing in the papers.
Anonymous
4 Feb 06 at 6:36 am
douchii23- You called that one on the money. She is cold. I think even Tim might have been abused. You hear of abused husbands. I just cannot fathom how an innocent party could hid the awful truth. When I think of that child lying in that marshy area for so long, it sickens me. I actually drive that road at times and I’m sick to think that I’ve driven right by and not aware of what was right under my nose. It’s interesting how many Jackson neighbors have come forward and mentioned how cold Lisa was and how they didn’t know they even had children because they weren’t outside. A lot to hide, I’d say. Well, she’s out of the picture now.
Does anyone know where Ricky’s funeral and burial was? It would be nice to see to it he has a marker and flowers in summer and not just put in the ground and forgotten. Nothing in the papers.
Anonymous
4 Feb 06 at 6:38 am
The birth Mother isnt Tryin to put the poor me thing… you dont even know what she did to get her kids back… I was there..she tried to do what the State told her to do.. but it was never enough… she had to have her own place to live and A vehicle all within a three month period….it had to be her Vehicle in her name and the house had to be in her name also she couldnt share it with anyone… she had to have her own 3 bedroom place (which are Expensive) and A vehicle and a full time job all in about 6 months tops… and there isnt really a way to do that especially in jackson where Jobs are few and far between…. so before you Judge her you should relieze what she had to go through… they told the birthfather of her younger three to do the same but that they could not do it togther… they both tried… if they had let them get a place together it would have been easier….but they didnt. they said they both had to get their own place and job and Vehicle….they were makin them jump through Impossible hoops… the Case worker on the Case was very prejudice and was very wrong in some of the things she said off the Record… which of Course she cant get into trouble because She said them only To the birthparents and me if I was around… there was no way the state worker was ever gonna give the kids back and She made sure that it happened just that way….. Ricky is just like my nephew and he and Casey lived with me for a long time…. I have been There since lil ricky was 2 so I know the hoops.. I tried to help them jump through the hoops but nothin Worked for this Case worker and she made it all look horrible in court….( which I was there for those also) they wouldnt let me take ricky otherwise I would have… and they didnt even give her A chance with her others.. just took them….so please dont Judge her or the birth father because it was impossible to jump through the hoops Given to them by A certain Case worker who will Remain nameless
Anonymous
9 Feb 06 at 12:19 pm